I’ve been writing erotica for around six years now, five of them published.
On the whole it’s brilliant. Readers appreciate the work (even if some people don’t admit to reading it!) and the community of erotic writers is fantastic. There’s no competition, back stabbing or bitchiness. Everyone is wonderfully supportive and encouraging. I couldn’t ask for a better bunch of colleagues, albeit remote ones.
Sadly though, us erotic writers do have a curse.
It is the curse of the people that don’t “get” it. They’re often non-writing folk, and tend to assume that because we write naughty or kinky things that we’re getting up to said naughty or kinky things, too.
Some of us are, but who cares? As long as the action is between consenting adults and nobody is getting hurt (unless they want to be, of course 😉 ), then why does it matter?
However, there are many erotic writers that pen tales of whips and chains, threesomes, one-night stands, flings and more, that don’t even come close. We’re happily married, or with a partner and any sexy things happen within the confines of our relationships and behind firmly closed doors. We’re not promiscuous, nor are we swinging from the lightshades. We just have damn good imaginations.
Luckily, most of us can live with these assumptions on our characters and just laugh them off. The people that matter know the truth about us, and that’s all that matters.
Unfortunately, though, some people believe that because we’re open minded that we’ll take kindly to outrageous flirting and inappropriate comments. Thankfully, I haven’t been subject to it myself, but I know people that have been harassed, propositioned and more, simply because of what they write. None of them asked for or encouraged it. In fact, the only thing they did to warrant receiving such inappropriate behaviour was to write erotica.
I’m sure you’ll agree that’s absolutely out of order. Erotic writers are no different to writers in any other genre, except for the subject matter. I’m sure crime authors don’t get asked to go and solve crime, or get accused of being criminals. Equally, paranormal authors don’t get sent stakes and garlic to help protect them from vampires. So it sucks (if you’ll pardon the pun) that some of us experience this problem. What we do doesn’t make us OK with harassment or inappropriate comments. We deserve the same level of respect given to writers in other genres – and we demand it.
Thanks for listening to my little rant, everyone. I know I’m preaching to the converted here, but I had to get it off my chest.
And now this non-vampire, non-lesbian chick is going to post the blurb from her latest release, paranormal lesbian erotic romance, BITE WITH HEIGHT:
When Meg spots a young woman alone in the Pigalle district of Paris at night, she’s intrigued. She has to know her story and find out why she looks so sad and alone. After introducing herself, Meg realizes that she and Grace have a lot in common. But when they decide to go and grab a drink together, they discover a mutual love that could bond them forever.
Get your teeth (sorry, it had to be done!) into this hot read from the Noble Romance website: https://nobleromance.com/Books/298
There’s also a hot excerpt available. You can see my full backlist on Lucy Felthouse.co.uk, my website.
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