On Writing The Narcissist and the Awakening

December 9, 2023 | By Women Writers Women Books | Reply More

In my book The Narcissist and the Awakening, I explore the psychological and spiritual sides of what’s happening during these forms of contact, as well as offer healing methods and ways of living to support continued growth and love. In between chapters, a different meditation technique or practice is included, serving as a guidepost and thereby providing assistance to the reader along their healing journey. My writing means so much more to me than just fancy intellectual words used to get my point across; it’s a way I can connect with each reader on a more intimate level, a place where I find passion, strength, and courage to project my light into the world. In doing so, I hope to provide a sense of safe warm encouragement for each person who comes across this small but effective therapeutic tool so that they, too, can shine their unique light ever more brightly.

In these pages, I give some background information about myself and why I decided to write about such a sensitive topic; one of the main reasons, at the time, was that I couldn’t find much information about the spiritual side of what happens inside these often-binding relationships. I also look at why we, as souls, may choose to come here to Earth and take on a human form. One reason is that we get to experience all levels of emotion and what that feels like. Diving into the nature of healing, which suggests that, first, there must be some turbulence to heal from — in other words, every step of the way is felt, and through that comes greater strength, appreciation, and preparation for the next step.

Furthermore, each of us has a distinctive role to play in triggering these different emotional states in one another in life, which aids evolution and fine-tunes our judgement or decision-making skills, guiding us with behaviour that feels right for us individually and promotes better quality relationships. This turbulence is what kicks-starts us to look at ourselves with a new pair of eyes, as if we could remember who we are — then our journey back to align with our higher self could be launched — this is part of the awakening process, and although it’s different for each of us, it is described in more detail in The Narcissist and the Awakening.

The psychology of narcissistic behaviour and how this can manifest in a relationship is considered, leading to different comparable types of narcissists (such as grandiose and covert). This material is followed by a section on empaths, what this means, and how this behaviour is attractive to those with narcissistic traits. I also make a point of explaining how, in no way, does my book penalise or blame anyone; narcissist and empath are only titles I use to explore different behaviour characteristics, with the objectives to support both individuals in a relationship and to reach a place of knowing how to Balance, individually, the feminine and masculine energies within by understanding the different qualities they offer and how those energies can work together.

What makes The Narcissist and the Awakening different from other books is that I address the notion of soul contracts, meaning that, before we leave the spirit realm, our non-physical essence takes on a new physical body; however, before its departure, it makes the decision to pair with other souls, and this is a shared spiritual agreement made before birth, with the purpose of influencing the course of our lives and aiding reciprocal growth alongside others. This all leads to questions of why we, as souls, choose to have such destructive ties and whether there’s a possibility of a past life, of karma and how it has an impact on the soul’s development, karma not necessarily being something that is good or bad but rather related to the universal law of cause and effect, meaning that every action in the universe has a reaction that contributes to the production of another event … and although we may not see this happening within our 3-D reality straightaway, these spiritual memories can stay with us, and if they’re not balanced in this lifetime, our soul will be given the opportunity to clear away this energy in the next life.

The final chapters of my book investigate how manipulation and black magic are linked. Through my analysis of this taboo subject, I hope to offer a greater understanding and awareness of how spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical bodies are linked, as well as what is happening when low vibrational energetic cords of attachment are made and the effect that can have. These invisible cords connect to one or more chakras of both people, and instead of feeding loving energy to each other, they have the ability to drain or take away from one or both persons. At the end of The Narcissist and the Awakening, I offer tips and attentive ways for aiding self-care management, and through that, aim to activate a new cycle of self-love and healing.

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New to writing, and offering a different perspective with insight, guidance and comfort Author Paris Stephenson created a self-help book, the narcissist and the awakening to support those who have experienced emotional difficulties in partnership. She began writing as a way of coping with her own internal struggles which manifested into a creative outlet that could offer light and healing for those in destructive relationships. In her book she offers both psychological research into narcissism and dives into what is potentially happening on a spiritual level. Paris currently lives in London with her son and is in her final year of training as a person-centred counsellor, within her chosen profession her mission is to continue to support others along their healing journey in striving for self-actualization leading to a sense of purpose, fulfilment and growth. Paris is a qualified Reiki practitioner and in her spare time enjoys offering this energy healing technique to friends and family.

The Narcissist and the Awakening

Rooted in psychological research, The Narcissist and the Awakening takes a look at emotional abuse from a spiritual perspective. Within these pages, author Paris Stephenson explores the possible influence of karma and past life events on our current relationships, inquiring why we might make soul contracts with narcissists and why some relationships with our soul family might be destructive. The importance of transcending these ancient karmic connections is also examined so that we can reclaim our power, discard karmic ties, and create our own destiny. Right now, many people are healing at an accelerated rate from karma they have been carrying for possibly thousands of years. This is likely an uncomfortable and painful process, if you have experienced emotional abuse, then this book will be a small but useful tool, assisting you along your journey, with its aim to kickstart your spiritual ascension and new beginning, with wisdom, meditation and prayer.