From Darkness to Light: The Story Behind Confused Girl: Find Your Peace in the Chaos

By Giovanna Silvestre

My journey of writing Confused Girl, Find Your Peace in the Chaos started a decade ago when I found myself in a deep, dark pit of despair. This wasn’t just a phase; it was a heavy depression that felt like a shadow I couldn’t shake off. As I navigated through this time, I came to a powerful realization: I had spent way too long living for others—trying to please my parents, fitting in with my peers, and conforming to society’s expectations. My self-worth was tied to how others saw me, and in doing so, I lost touch with my true self.

During those tough days, my mind was relentless, replaying my perceived failures and shortcomings. I felt utterly worthless, and it became clear that I needed to change the narrative. I set out on a mission to find a way to build a foundation of self-love that didn’t depend on external validation. I wanted to feel good about myself just for being me—just for existing. That became my guiding light, leading me out of the darkness.

Slowly but surely, I started to climb back up. I picked up various tools and practices that helped me heal, many of which I share in my book. But as I began to feel better, a new question popped into my mind: “Who am I, and what am I meant to do?” To explore this, I decided to start a video blog called Confused Girl in the City. Each week, I would try something new—something I’d never done before—just to see what I liked and what resonated with me. This exploration turned out to be a beautiful adventure in self-discovery. I learned that confusion could actually be a friend rather than a foe.

The name “Confused Girl” started to take on a whole new meaning for me. I realized that confusion is a virtue; it’s a sign that you’re on the brink of discovering something new about yourself. Life is unpredictable, and when you welcome the chaos with a sense of inner peace and self-love, you can turn challenges into opportunities for growth. This shift in perspective was empowering, allowing me to approach the twists and turns of life with curiosity rather than fear.

One day, while driving to my parent’s house, I felt this incredible rush of inspiration hit me—like a lightning bolt from the universe! In that moment, I knew I was meant to write a book. My body buzzed with excitement, and I couldn’t wait to get started. To really connect with my thoughts, though, I wanted a peaceful setting, so I decided to write my book in Bali, Indonesia. 

Spending a year in Bali was nothing short of magical. The island’s beauty and tranquility seeped into my writing process. I practiced yoga daily, which helped me tap into my creativity. Some days, the words flowed out of me effortlessly; on others, I hit a wall. But instead of stressing about it, I learned to listen to those moments. I’d go out exploring, soaking in the vibrant culture and the warmth of the Balinese people. They inspired me with their kindness and light, reminding me that confusion can lead to clarity.

When I returned home, I sought representation for my book. The journey to publication wasn’t easy—my manuscript faced rejection from various publishers for two long years. But through it all, I held on to the belief that the writing process was a victory in itself. I had learned so much about myself, and even if my book never got published, I knew I had followed my passion.

Just two months before my father passed away, I got the incredible news that two publishing companies were in a bidding war for my book! It was a bittersweet moment, filled with joy and sorrow. My father had seen my journey and was so proud of my hard work. I’ll never forget the moment he looked at me, tears in his eyes, and told me how proud he was. 

Now, as I prepare for the release of Confused Girl: Find Your Peace in the Chaos in May 2025, I feel my father’s spirit guiding me. This book isn’t just my story; it’s a message of hope and empowerment for women navigating their own struggles. I truly believe it can comfort and inspire many to embrace their confusion and see it as a beautiful part of life.

I’d love to connect with you! Please say hi via my website, Confused Girl in the City (https://confusedgirlinthecity.com), or follow me on Instagram @ConfusedGirlLA. Let’s celebrate our confusion together and discover the peace that lies within!

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Giovanna Silvestre is the creator of Confused Girl in the City, an international activewear brand inspired by unique healing crystals, blending beauty and spirituality. Featured on NBC and in Forbes and LA Yoga, she’s a graduate of the University of Southern California. Transitioning from the entertainment industry, Giovanna embarked on a journey of self-discovery, emerging as a leading lifestyle and wellness influencer, entrepreneur, and writer. Follow her on Instagram @ConfusedGirlLA and subscribe at www.confusedgirlinthecity.com.

Confused Girl: Find Your Peace in the Chaos

A powerful blend of self-help and intimate storytelling, Confused Girl is here to guide women through the turbulence of the modern world and help them fearlessly create the life of their dreams.

To all the women who feel stuck, unworthy, or lost, take heart–your confusion is a virtue! It’s the first stepping stone on your path to becoming an empowered warrior. Giovanna Silvestre, a leading lifestyle and wellness influencer and creator of the international activewear brand Confused Girl in the City, understands the turbulence of the modern world firsthand. Now, she’s here to guide women toward breaking free and confidently pursuing their dreams.

In Confused Girl: Find Your Peace in the Chaos, Giovanna shares her transformative journey from an ego-driven, early Hollywood career to true self-acceptance and inner peace. Through raw and honest storytelling, she opens up about her struggles with identity and purpose, including a challenging period of depression that ultimately led to her awakening. Drawing from her own trials and triumphs, Giovanna offers inspiring wisdom on living life on your own terms, finding joy in the mess, learning self-love, overcoming negativity and anxiety, and discovering the courage to chase your desires without letting fear dictate your fate.

Part memoir, part guidebook, Confused Girl empowers women of all ages to chart a positive course through a rapidly changing world. This seemingly daunting landscape is filled with unprecedented potential for self-fulfillment. Giovanna’s insights serve as a must-read treasure map, guiding you on the journey to discover your true nature and realize your dreams.

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