Women are hardwired to sustain the life of their children. Hardwired for relationships. Hardwired for nurturing.
Though we’re all different and fall across the spectrum, biologically, more women are instinctively focused on sustaining life of the vulnerable and weak. It’s necessary because human infants need years of nurturing and care before they can survive independently.
Why say this here? Because for many women, carving time out for their writing is literally cutting away part of their life – their relationships with others, their responsibilities to others.
Women who have been able to say “no” to other responsibilities, in order to be able to make time for their own writing, do risk the resentment of their friends and family. There is a cost.
Mary Oliver’s poem The Journey talks about that, about all the voices clamoring for attention:
“‘Mend my life!’
each voice cried.”
And you, (we) having to keep going for what we’re going for.
When we take time to write, we risk being called “selfish”.
Have you had to carve out your own writing time? Has there been a cost?
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